What Not to Do

• Do not get too greedy!

You may make severe legal mistakes in your haste to horde family valuables and assets. Do not make a hasty decision you might regret later.

• Do not saddle your children with your emotional baggage!

This means: Do not prod your children for gossip about your spouse, do not slander your spouse to your children, do not hold your children hostage in a custody dispute, do not tell your children emotionally damaging personal information, and do not take your stress out on them if you wish not to leave long lasting emotional problems with your children.

• Do not vandalize your spouse’s car!

Or vandalize your spouse’s property, or make mean websites about them on the internet, or drive around the parking lot of their employer with a bullhorn extolling your hatred for your spouse. This can: A) Alienate your children or B) Look really bad in court.

• Do not arrange a visitation with your children under the influence of alcohol or other substances

Do you want to endanger your relationship with your child or put them in harms way? Having visitation in a cell is not quality parental-child bonding time.

• Do not settle with your spouse early in the divorce proceedings

Make sure you hire an attorney before you do anything! Why sell yourself short and give up more of your hard earned assets than you have to? Divorce can be a costly time in your life, try to save as much as you can. Maintain good paperwork and copies of financial records.

•DO NOT REFUSE TO SEEK A THERAPIST LIKE YOUR HIGHLY QUALIFIED COACH HOWARD RUDOLPH!

These evens can be overwhelming, and even when you think you are in control you might be making costly mistakes in dealing with your divorce. Contact Howard Rudolph, even if think you’re in control. You might learn a few things you will be happy for later.

• Don't Get Pregnant

As ludicrous as this may sound, having a baby during your divorce proceedings can really throw a monkey wrench in the works. Take for instance Shawnna Hughes. In November 2004, a Spokane County, a Washington state judge refused to allow Hughes, a pregnant woman, to divorce her abusive husband even know her husband was not the father of the child. State law assumes the husband to be the father for up to three hundred days after the divorce to ensure there will be a father to assume financial responsibility for the newborn. The judge refused to grant a divorce because of the concerns, and although many states now grant single parents the same rights as married ones, having a child when you're in marital purgatory can cause many unnecessary problems.

•Do not forget to change Your will

Do you want your ex-spouse to inherit everything in the case of your accidental death? Wills do not change just because you get divorced. Make sure you change your will right away to ensure your spouse cannot sue and gain part of your estate.

•Do not sleep with your legal counsel (or therapist)

It is easy to get a little to close to someone when they are there to help you through a difficult time. This doesn’t mean you can have a slip in judgment and make a huge legal mistake. Not only do most courts look unfavorably upon sexual activity between an attorney and their client, but you can be charged with adultery for the infidelity and lose your divorce case.